The holidays always bring family together for meals and time together, and ours is no different. Brian and I are blessed to belong to very large extended families on both sides. Brian’s father is one of six siblings and his Mom one of three. My Mom is one of three and her Mom was one of six as well. So, juggling all the family get togethers can be fun.
But, what I have noticed throughout the season so far is that family can exceed the traditional definitions placed on the word. Family can be difficult even in the best of times and strait out awful at others, but what makes family great is that no matter what, family will be there. Even if being there in today’s world is a digital affair.
I think that the traditional ideal of family is going away, even in my still traditional world, and that makes me curious about the world my children will inherit. I want my children to grow understanding that “family” is a belief and a group effort, and not always a perfection. There will be strife and disagreement, unhappiness, and joy. There is never a right or wrong answer with family, but there is always love an acceptance of family. I want them to embrace times spent with family, to learn from their past, and grow towards their future.
My children come from a diverse past. Where I come from a suburban neighborhood with professional working parents (that were never home), Brian comes from a sixth generation working farm with involved stay at home parents. I hope that we can show our children some of both and teach them that family means accepting differences as part of the love of family.